I feel like our story together really began in the fall of 2014.
At that time this had been a blur for myself juggling a full time job, a full time online college course and being a single mother of a beautiful little girl.
When I say single mother I mean actually one hundred percent. I can’t remember at this time if he had been helping financially but I don’t recall, I do know until 2018 it was the state minimum of $50. Visitation was limited and I had to fight for him to have a relationship. I already had full custody (he gave it to me).
Needless to say things where tight then and it left little time for me to be social.
Deciding to reach out for a companion was difficult. I mean I had dated since my daughter’s father left but something about this time was different. I was no longer looking for someone to build a life with I mean, I had already built my own. Our life was simple and we struggled but it was ours and we did not depend on anyone to fulfill our needs. I was looking for someone to add to our lives someone to enjoy things with.
I opened my online dating profile and decided I wanted 3 things in a companion.
First I did not want someone who lived in my hometown. Strangely I wanted that separation, I needed our interactions to be planned and not just something that we did out of convince.
Secondly I did not want to date someone with children. my reasoning at that time was that I did not think I could love someone elses children as much as I loved my own. Turns out later that should not have been a concern.
Lastly I wanted someone who had a career or an established profession. I knew from past relationships that I did not want someone that couldn’t be consistent and that to me was a sign of consistency.
To be continued….
The Married Single Mother 